I lost my Mum less than a year ago. I have been helped by so many friends who listened, and seemed to say the right thing – and hindered by those who didn’t, and didn’t.
This piece by Maria Popova looks at Barbara Walters’ take on how words, and actually an absence of words, can play a part in supporting the recently bereaved.
“Things being what they are in the world today, we are more and more driven to depend on one another’s sympathy and friendship in order to survive emotionally.”
“There’s a long period after a death when self-control is fragile. Pity smashes it flat and leaves the bereaved person feeling naked and mortified.” Indeed.